I don't think you can look for love. All you can do is get yourself in a situation where you don't discourage something that may be rather nice.
The thing you have to be prepared for is that other people don't always dream your dream.
"You have to erect a fence and say "OK, scale this.""
We were raised with the idea that we had limitless chances and we got very shocked to learn that wasn't the case.
The constant fear of a performer is to become what is reflected back at you.